BLESSINGWAY

WHAT IS A BLESSINGWAY?

 

Most Likely you already know what a baby shower is. 

However, there is a beautiful pre-birth tradition, which is becoming more popular as word spreads. It’s called a Blessingway

 

A Blessingway is an old Navajo (native American) ceremony, which celebrates a woman's rite of passage into motherhood. 

 

Unlike a traditional baby shower, where gifts are purchased for the baby, a Blessingway is all about nurturing the mother-to-be and celebrating motherhood.

 

A Blessingway is all about showering the mother, and filling her cup so it overflows with love and confidence as she prepares for her birth and baby to arrive. A woman who is given lots of love has more love to give in return — and there is nothing like a circle of loving women to get that beautiful hormone, oxytocin, (the hormone of love and bonding) flowing! 

 

A Mother Blessing is a beautiful and unique way to honour a mother-to-be, spending time with her, sharing stories, sharing food, tea & cake, creating ceremony, discussing and processing fears and filling her with the confidence and strength she needs moving forwards to her birth. 

 

WHAT HAPPENS AT A BLESSINGWAY?

 

A Blessingway involves a gathering of the mother-to-be's most trusted female friends and family, who sit in the power of a circle and share amongst one another. This may include her mother, sisters, aunts, daughters, best of friends, mentors — anyone she respects, looks up to or values.

 

 

Mother Blessings will vary in proceedings and rituals, there is no set order or agenda, so you can choose what you would like to do. A Blessingway facilitated by me may include:

 

  • Food, Tea & Cake to share.

  • Fresh flowers brought for the Mother-to-be to create her flower crown and to decorate the space. 

  • Bead Ceremony - Each woman brings a special bead to the Blessingway. They offer their bead to the mother-to-be along with a blessing for her birth and transition into motherhood.  The blessing can be in the form of a poem, a prayer, words of wisdom, or a simple wish. The beads are then strung together into a necklace or bracelet, so that the mother-to-be can wear or have nearby while she is in labour.  

 

 

 

 

 

  • Connecting with the string ceremony - A red string string or yarn is wrapped around each woman's wrist to represent the umbilical cord.  The women then cut individual pieces of the string and tie it around their wrists into a bracelet, to wear until the expectant mother goes into labour. When labour begins, the attendants at the Blessingway are notified by phone or text. They then cut the string on their wrists and say a prayer for the mother-to-be and for her baby’s safe passage into the world. Until the birth, the women who wear the string bracelet is to keep the expectant woman in their thoughts and prayers.

 

  • Decorating the belly - Body paint or henna can be used to adorn the woman's belly, helping her feel celebrated and beautiful. Some women also enjoy creating a belly cast, a plaster cast of her pregnant torso, which can be decorated and displayed as art after it dries.

 

  • Birth Art for mother-to-be – Either the attendents can bring something personal and special as a small offering to mother-to-be, which will usually be placed on the Blessingway alter space and used my mother-to-be in a similar way during her labour. An alternative is creating some affirmation wood discs.  Each attendant is given a disc of wood which is hand painted.  A pattern, symbol or words can adorn the disc which will be given to mother-to-be to place on her birth alter or another location for her in the build up to and during her labour. 

 

  • The Blessingway usually ends with sharing nourishing food and tea, and can also include welcoming the father into the circle.  As a parting gift, Blessingway attendants may be given a candle to light when they receive the notification that labour has begun.

The total for the Blessingway package - £120 

Below is what I will provide/bring:

  • Blessingway altar & a few pieces for the altar.  

  • Henna cones

  • Red cord

  • Chalk Pens 

  • Wood Discs

  • Additional Beads & Bead cord

  • I am happy to facilitate at mother-to-be's home,                                 or at a location of her choosing.  

  • I am happy to host the Blessingway at my house too. 

  • Vases & Jam Jars (for flowers)

  • large Vegan Dish for lunch to add to the Pot Luck 

  • Candles

  • Incense

  • sheepskin rugs 

  • Flower crown making materials (to be made on the day by one of the mother-to-be's women.)

The balance in full is paid two weeks prior to the Blessingway.

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